Is There a Right Way to Be Friends With Your Ex?
Lydie Vachon Lydie Vachon

Is There a Right Way to Be Friends With Your Ex?

Can we be friends with our ex? Only when the relationship has been truly resolved. On the difference between unfinished longing and the deep, fertile friendship that remains when the sexual pull has dissolved on its own.

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The Person You Are Waiting For Is Coming. But Will You Be Ready?
Lydie Vachon Lydie Vachon

The Person You Are Waiting For Is Coming. But Will You Be Ready?

We all know deep within that things would be different if we would be with someone who was truly “matching” us. But when the right person comes, even if we felt it very deeply, something is off. It’s too complicated. It’s not working. We think we misevaluated. But we knew. We just didn’t know how much it would require of us, and how unprepared we were for this love.

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Working on Yourself in Love : How Lasting Love is Earned
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Working on Yourself in Love : How Lasting Love is Earned

Love always comes when we least expect it. Then it leaves us shaken and often broken. Because how can you live your life so well after you’ve touched paradise, and lost it? It gives the greatest meaning, then takes it all away. We could give anything to make love last, and yet, it seems to slip away over and over. Because the only path to making this heaven last, is by earning it honestly. 

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Finding a Healthy Closure
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Finding a Healthy Closure

We build a wall around ourselves, around our heart and our innocence, to protect ourselves from the toxic experiences that happened to us — experiences we never fully understood.

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Freeing oneself of sexual obsessions to access soul-deep intimacy you won’t want to return from
Lydie Vachon Lydie Vachon

Freeing oneself of sexual obsessions to access soul-deep intimacy you won’t want to return from

Trying to get rid of a sexual obsession (think kink or fetishes) can often feel impossible. They can cause unnecessary suffering that yet feels absolutely necessary while pulling us down into a dark hole, keeping us away from the path of real life fulfillment, as our sexual (aka creative) energy is oriented towards satisfaction rather than growth and development of life-purpose. 

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50 key questions to evaluate a good love partner
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50 key questions to evaluate a good love partner

Even though physical chemistry is important when meeting someone, and physical attraction is an effective compass for recognizing compatibility, it is so easy to get it wrong when choosing a partner, isn't it?

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Self-Observation and the 3 Levels of Identification
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Self-Observation and the 3 Levels of Identification

When we practice self-observation, we notice that our identifications manifest in different, often contradictory ways. A part of us is completely serene, while another part, in a more invisible way, is irritated or discouraged.

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What do you do with it?
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What do you do with it?

When the power of passion rises
What do you do with it?
Do you channel it into thinking
Self-pleasuring in the head
Slavery of the mind

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