Do I need Love to heal? Can I love someone I don’t like?

Can true love exist with a partner that I do not like that much?

Does being with a partner that I like very very much automatically bring true love?

Do I need to be truly loved to heal?

Love is something that we can access from within, where there is no fear and no desire to grasp.

The more connected I am to my soul, the more I love sincerely. 

The more connected I am to my ego, the less I am capable of love. 

Love has little to do with the person we love. 

It has a lot to do with the person who loves. 

Love benefits a little to the person who is loved.

Love benefits a lot to the person who loves.

It is a current of higher energy that the person who loves channel. 

As it passes through them, it pulls them higher and nourishes them deeply.

There is no need of possession from the person who loves. 

They say the cure to not having been loved is to be loved.

But loving is the cure to our pain for not being loved. 

The problem is that we often call « love » what truly is desire. 

So by « loving », we feel more hurt. 

If you feel more hurt by loving, ask yourself what kind of « love » it is. 

True love is a connexion to a life-force.

Loving does not require a special person. 

It only requires a connexion with oneself. 

Although a special person might help in making it easier. 

It may be easier to see their soul when they have an affinity with ours.

But a special person can also make it harder by triggering desire.

We may feel like we need this person very much, thus loosing this special connexion with the life-force of Love.

Where there is desire, there is no love. 

Desires seeks to control and to grasp. 

Love seeks to allow and to serve. 

So if you find yourself truly loved, don’t think it’s because of your value. 

It’s because of the value of the person who loves you.

Don’t think that you owe them something. 

Because they’ve already gotten their salary by channeling the life-force of Love within them.

If you find yourself truly loved, ask yourself : how can I be blessed too?

If you find yourself unable to love, ask yourself : why do I fear Love?

There is no true reason to fear Love, because Love brings no pain. 

Love heals pain. 

The real reason behind our fear of love, is our fear of our own desire. 

Because, the thing is… in order to develop true love within oneself, one needs to suffer through their own fake love. 

One has to experience desire which feels like love but isn’t. 

Love doesn’t hurt. But desire does. 

So we fear Love, because we’re afraid of the consequences of our desire.

But there is no way out. 

Desire creeps within. It creeps in the shadows of our subconscious. 

We desire as a reaction to our own perception of things. 

And we can only free ourselves from that illusion and see things for what they truly are by experiencing the pain born from desire. 

Because desire never comes without pain. They are two sides of the same coin. 

They are rooted in illusion, wrong perceptions. 

Only when we take a step back, we can See with our Hearts. 

Then we can step into Love. And the only thing that hurts when one Loves, is the part of our desire that is still alive.

The more we become aware of ourselves and misperceptions, the more this desire naturally dies, and leaves room for more Love. 

More Love = more peace. More joy. More sincerity. More simplicity. More freedom. More real connexion. 

Do not be afraid of feeling, of surrendering, of the storm that will come with what your desire calls you to.

It is necessary. 

You will grow stronger from it. More human. You will never want to go back to the older version of yourself, I swear. 

Do not be afraid of the pain, but guard yourself from its overwhelm. Practice taking a step back. 

Desire is so powerful and hypnotic, that we usually can’t see it for what it is while we are in it. 

That’s why it hurts so much. 

Let’s remember to take a step back, and look at what is happening without judgement. 

From this sincere curiosity, our mind may relax so that we can see with our heart through the illusion. 

Look deeply, be deeply interested in your hidden self. 

There, you will find real freedom. There you will find Love. 

Then, you too will be blessed by the ability of loving, no matter what you receive in return. 

Then, Love finds its way into the cracks and comes blessing you in the most unexpected ways.

It never leaves you unhappy and lonely. 

True Love is true wealth. 

Don’t look for true love outside.

Even the most pure love given will be only a little healing.

Look for true love inside, in the courage of facing whatever you need to face to uncover it within.

Even a small amount of that kind of love will heal you deeply. 

Don’t be afraid of people who don’t love you properly.

They will only reveal better your desires. 

When the desires are not satisfied, they scream.

So we can see through them better.

Understand them better. See their roots. 

Don’t be afraid of emotional pain in relationships. 

Work through it, and it will bring you inner wealth. 

So… even if you are not that attracted to your partner, if you have love within, you will be happy with them. 

And… if you like your partner too much, your hidden desires will be activated. You will feel a lot, want a lot, hope a lot, hurt a lot. 

And if you discover yourself a lot (by your own efforts), you will also learn how to love better. 

But if you don’t work on it, your « love » will turn bitter. Because pain unprocessed becomes more pain. 

So… you don’t need to be loved to heal. You need to love Love itself. To use everything given to you as an opportunity to learn, so that you may find your wrong perceptions and see with your Heart. You will only heal when you can see with your heart (not with your emotions). Because yes, desire feels so much like love because it takes over our emotions strongly. But emotions are not the Heart. The Heart is a quiet force of seeing, Being. The emotions are expressions of our perceptions. If we have wrong perceptions, we will have inappropriate emotions. Our emotions may become very sour from specific perceptions. Or they may become disgustingly sugary from another type of specific perceptions. We must look into our perceptions so that we may see that they are something true but distorted. That there is a projection mixed with a real perception. We must look for something more true behind them, which would bring more purpose to whatever is happening. To reconciliate ourselves with Life. 

Trust the process, open yourself to your own illusions. So that you may find Love within you. 

Then everything will make sense. 

You will be free.