Finding a Healthy Closure

We all work hard to be detached and independent.
To love ourselves and not depend on anyone.
But often, we don’t realize that our “detachment” is actually dissociation — a form of repression.

We build a wall around ourselves, around our heart and our innocence, to protect ourselves from the toxic experiences that happened to us — experiences we never fully understood.

Because it’s true: crying too much, fighting too much, makes you age faster.
With every loss, I feel myself grow older — I can sense it.

Putting the past aside helps us function day to day.
And it already takes a lot of work to learn how to do that.

The problem is that deep inside, it leaves an invisible mark.
Something remains trapped within.
At first, we don’t feel it. We feel lighter.
But over time, it becomes heavier.

The walls we created have imprisoned us a little too.
We feel disconnected.
We can’t be touched by the world around us in the same way anymore.
We thirst for intimacy, but intimacy becomes harder to reach.

If you recognize yourself in this portrait, it’s normal.
It’s (almost) all of our story.

Rediscover the sensitivity of your youth
without losing the strength of your wisdom.

Something isn’t finished —
you feel it deep inside.
There is still buried pain.
Unanswered questions.

If life allows you the space right now,
and you feel the call to free yourself
without having to build a wall or cut yourself off from the Love you once felt for this person…

I have something for you.

It’s a process of a few weeks to help you find meaning in what seems meaningless.
To finally bring this story to a truly healthy completion.
Revisit forgotten wounds to reclaim the parts of yourself you lost along the way — and a portion of your latent potential.

It’s entirely free.

Real Closure Never Happens Without These

Deep clarity

If we wish closure from someone, we must offer them total honesty. It’s only when we fully understand something that we know what is right in the situation. When we are confused, we remain attached, because we can’t see what is right. There is room for our hopes and wishes. But when we fully see all variables, we can look at the Truth together, and bow in awe in front of it. This is so beautiful and amazing, because as we find the courage to be fully honest with our partner, we realize that everything we kept from them were key elements for restoring harmony, as well as knowing when it is right to move away, as well as erasing all the pain. Because yes, when we fully see reality as it is, we understand, so there are no more lingering hopes that hurt. It heals the pain, and makes room within us for the future, whatever it may bring.

If you truly love someone, offer them a proper closure. Offer them that pause in time, where you just allow the process to unfold, in order to look at the situation with clear eyes and a complete picture, together. And trust the process. When there is understanding, there is no way that the person will hold you back. If the person is holding you back, it just means that you two have not dug deep enough into looking at Reality as it is. Keep on working at being honest with yourselves and each other. You’ll get there.

Stirring back up the feelings

Looking at whatever feelings are left, look at them, feel them, value them. They are part of the puzzle. We never find understanding if we only look at the problems. We need to remember all the good times, all the broken hopes and those still alive. These carry so much data, and these need to live, to find a new vehicle to move on. These need to see that this vehicle may not be the right one to carry them, but they need to be remembered as important. This gives strenght in the breakup process. We breakup not only because our hopes are broken and we see the obstacles, no! We break up, because we see the hopes that are sacred and we feel the need to fight for them.

Looking at all the obstacles

We obvious also need to look at all the challenges and walls, to be truly honest with everything. By reviewing every difficulty, every place where no solution seemed to be present, and everything that may have been done wrong, we can allow a form of repentance to be born within us. A wish to do better. This is part of the closure process. Yes, it’s possible that it will bring the couple back together with renewed hopes (great!), but often, it will just give room for integration and a knowing that it is important to do in that direction for the future, for the next relationship. These insights are much needed in order to fully see oneself toward the future and to let go of what we are still projecting in the actual relationship.

Combining good and bad

• Putting these two sides together, looking honestly at each other face to face, for a long time. Letting them sit together, letting them ask questions. Letting them reach conclusion in its own time. 

• It is a battle that happens in the heart in which the mind and the body are only vessels. 

• They can help seeing clearly what is happening in the Heart. 

• So when all was brought back up to the surface, all taken together, one can reach a more complete and objective conclusion. It comes naturally. There is no dilemma, no tearing decisions. These experiences are just part of the process of the two parts facing one another.

  The real meaningful decision that will change things (either way in breaking up or getting back together for a renewal and transformation), is the one that comes naturally as an evidence, once everything has been brought up to the surface. 

Wishing you the return of your full light ☀️❤️

I offer a free Healthy Closure process down below. Feel free to use it to facilitate your journey.