50 key questions to evaluate a good love partner
Even though physical chemistry is important when meeting someone, and physical attraction is an effective compass for recognizing compatibility, it is so easy to get it wrong when choosing a partner, isn't it?
Mmm... yeah, because our sexual energy is hypnotic by nature, and we automatically project all sorts of things onto the other person, filling in the blanks with assumptions. We think we understand what the person is telling us, only to discover much later that we had misinterpreted. That we had projected our own interpretation (our desires) onto their words... and onto their actions.
That is why it is valuable to take your time when dating, and to really get to know the other person for who they are, by clarifying what the words they use mean to them. To take the time to verify that our values are the same and that we have real compatibility regarding a Heart and life partnership.
"If you think you are falling in love and living with someone, become an observer. Why? Because you fall in love with a body, but you marry a character. Observe their character, their customs, their habits, their spiritual life, their state of consciousness, if they know how to manage their finances well, observe their way of being, how they relate to their parents, their brothers and sisters, even with their children if they have them, how they socialize with others, how they manage their anger, jealousy, their sexuality, how they act under pressure, how they assume their responsibilities and commitments, how they take care of their integrity, their purity and their constancy in their desire to live consciously, how they take responsibility for their life, their actions, their emotions and their feelings. The discovery period is not for discovering the body, it is for discovering the character. That is why if you fall in love, look closely again and again at their character. Before making a decision as important as living with someone, observe their character, that way you will protect your heart and therefore your peace of mind and your future." — Luna Rodriguez on Facebook
Here are a few questions that were running through my mind the last time I had to select a partner. Hoping they can be useful to you and generate meaningful conversations with your potential partners.
Note that this assessment is not complete without taking into account other important factors which I will speak about soon. Happy reading!
Personal Baggage
Tell me about your ex(es). What didn't work with them and why? How do you feel about that past?
What mistakes did you make with them and why?
How did that relationship transform you?
What touched you so deeply with them that you would really wish to be able to relive it at all costs today?
What is your relationship with your ex(es) today?
Tell me about your family and your relationship with them.
Tell me about your ancestors.
What do you think about your roots?
Do you have mental health struggles or significant health issues? If so, how do you take care of these in your life?
Tell me about your friends.
Romantic and Emotional Personality
Are you more attached to your independence or to connection? (Anxious or avoidant attachment type?)
What is your most common emotion in daily life?
How do you manage your negative emotions? How do you manage your most intense emotions?
What has made you suffer the most in life? Why? What does it mean for you?
How do you feel about feelings and emotions in general?
How do you feel about friendships between opposite sexes?
Lifestyle and Personality
Which foods can you not eat and why?
Do you do physical activity?
Where do you live?
What do you need to feel good and feel at home? What kind of place do you need to thrive or to enjoy it, versus something more luxurious and not really necessary?
Tell me about your work. What do you do? What do you like and what do you dislike about this work?
Do you dance?
Do you dream? How do you interpret them if applicable?
Are you more of an early bird or a night owl?
Do you meditate or do something to connect with yourself or engage in introspection?
What do you think about reflection and structuring your thoughts? And regarding reading?
What music do you listen to?
When you have free time, do you tend to do physical activity, intellectual activities, or socialize? (Physical, intellectual, or emotional dominance).
What weather makes you feel the best? And which season? (Their response speaks to their physical and psychic tendencies).
Aspirations
What is your goal in life? What motivates you?
What are the strangest things you believe in?
In what area do you most need support from a partner? What do you struggle with the most where you believe it would be healthier to help each other or be supported?
What do you want to become? Why do you work for it? What is your ideal life?
What do you think and feel about marriage?
What do you think and feel about having children?
How would you describe the experiences, sensations, and feelings you are looking for in love?
What do you crave the most: connecting and being inspired intellectually, connecting and being touched emotionally, or connecting and vibrating physically?
What would you like me to be in your life? What do you imagine we could experience together? Give me examples of what crosses your mind.
Sexual Personality
What is your relationship with porn?
What do you dislike about women/men?
What do you like about women/men?
What is your opinion on polyamory and open relationships? On monogamy?
What do you think about fidelity? How does infidelity make you feel? Have you ever been unfaithful and why?
How do you manage your sexual energy?
What characteristics do you associate with the masculine and the feminine based on the role models you know?
What do you fantasize about?
What do you dislike in sexuality?
Do you have any STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections)?
Do you have a fertility issue?
What do you dislike about me?
Tags: conscious love, self-love, sexual cultivation arts, couple, conscious couple, karezza, karezza method, toxic relationships, tantra, white tantra
