Trying to get rid of a sexual obsession (think kink or fetishes) can often feel impossible. They can cause unnecessary suffering that yet feels absolutely necessary while pulling us down into a dark hole, keeping us away from the path of real life fulfillment, as our sexual (aka creative) energy is oriented towards satisfaction rather than growth and development of life-purpose. 

When we practice self-observation, we notice that our identifications manifest in different, often contradictory ways. A part of us is completely serene, while another part, in a more invisible way, is irritated or discouraged.